{"id":3343,"date":"2024-04-08T10:46:17","date_gmt":"2024-04-08T08:46:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.failinlovenights.de\/?p=3343"},"modified":"2024-04-11T17:15:35","modified_gmt":"2024-04-11T15:15:35","slug":"finding-and-enduring-autonomy-in-proximity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.failinlovenights.de\/en\/autonomie-in-der-naehe-finden-und-aushalten\/","title":{"rendered":"Finding and enduring autonomy in proximity\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Are you more of a closeness or distance type? Whatever your answer, this text is for you. Because one of the biggest challenges in relationships is finding a good balance between closeness and distance. Of course, how much you need of one thing or another depends on the individual. In any case, it is a plus for a partnership if you strengthen your mental ability to maintain your autonomy in sincere closeness to another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Autonomy in intimacy\" is a term used by couples and sex therapist David Schnarch in his Differentiation-Based Model (DBM) for couples therapy to describe a couple's ability to be emotionally close while remaining individually autonomous. This ability is an important part of his theory on how couples can have a healthy and fulfilling marriage or partnership.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maintaining autonomy in closeness is the opposite of fusion or dependency in relationships. In a highly fused relationship, partners tend to give up their individual identity and their own needs in order to be close to the other. This can lead to the relationship becoming suffocating and individual autonomy being lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maintaining individual identity and autonomy in a partnership, even when there is deep emotional closeness, means that each member of the relationship is able to preserve their own interests, values, needs and desires. At the same time, everyone is able to open up and connect emotionally in a respectful and supportive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The following aspects are important for this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n